Why Women Don’t Know How to Treat Men: The Missing Lessons

It seems like a lot of us women weren’t really taught how to treat men. We grew up with stories and messages telling men to be protectors, providers, and gentlemen. Think about all the fairy tales and movies – the man always saves the day, carries the burden, and rescues the woman. But what about the other side of the coin? What were girls taught about how to treat men?

• Unequal Training: Boys are taught from a young age to be understanding, protective, and to provide for women, with no expectation of reciprocity.
• Lack of Feminine Guidance: Girls, on the other hand, are often told they are the prize but receive little to no instruction on how to show respect, loyalty, or devotion to men.
• Societal Messaging: Media and societal norms reinforce the idea of men as givers and women as receivers, with no emphasis on mutual contribution.
• Feminism’s Impact: Some argue that modern feminism shifted focus towards competition with men rather than teaching synergy and understanding, sometimes portraying masculine traits as negative.
• The Resulting Imbalance: This lack of teaching on feminine contribution leads to relationships where women expect a lot but don’t know how to give back, creating an imbalance.
• The Path Forward: True relationship success requires polarity, reciprocity, and emotional responsibility from both partners, meaning women need to learn how to contribute and honor men.

From the moment boys are little, they seem to get a clear set of instructions. Be a gentleman, open doors, protect her, provide for her, be understanding. And if she hits you, you don’t hit back. It’s a consistent message we see everywhere – in movies, books, and fairy tales. The man is the rescuer, the hero who risks his life and carries the weight of the world.

But here’s the thing: we rarely saw the reverse. Where were the stories teaching girls how to treat men? Where were the novels showing feminine loyalty, softness, or devotion? Our parents didn’t really teach it, schools didn’t cover it, and society certainly didn’t emphasize it. So, what happens when you have generations of women who are taught to expect everything but never shown how to give anything back?

Then came feminism, and for some, it made things even more confusing. Instead of teaching women how to understand men, how to work together, or how to create a healthy balance between masculine and feminine energies, it sometimes taught them to compete. It encouraged fighting with men, becoming like men, and viewing softness as weakness or masculinity as something toxic.

So, how can a woman treat a man well if she was never shown what feminine contribution looks like? How can she respect him when she grew up hearing that men are the problem? How can she love him correctly when she was taught that he owes her everything, and she owes nothing in return? It feels like men today are dealing with the fallout from a script they didn’t write. They were raised to give, and women weren’t raised to give back in the same way.

The only way to fix this imbalance is by teaching the truth about relationships. Polarity, that dance between masculine and feminine energies, can actually be freeing. Synergy, working together, is powerful. Relationships really only work when both people understand how to love each other and live authentically within their respective energies.

Until women learn how to treat men with respect, softness, admiration, and understanding, this imbalance will likely continue. It’s time for women to step up and learn how to contribute to a relationship in a way that honors both partners. It’s about creating a partnership where both people know how to give and receive, leading to a more fulfilling connection for everyone.