Happy Thanksgiving my Kings & Queens! 🫅👸❤️

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone! If you’re spending this holiday alone, know that you’re not by yourself right now. I’m here to connect, support, and create a space where you feel seen, understood, and valued, especially if you don’t have anyone to share this day with.

This live session is all about building a stronger, more connected you. We’ll be touching on some really important topics that can help you grow and heal. It’s a space for open discussion, and I’m excited to share this time with you.

Key Takeaways

• Understanding masculine and feminine polarity in relationships.
• Strategies for healing childhood wounds and breaking negative cycles.
• Improving communication and emotional maturity.
• The importance of respect, leadership, and reciprocity.
• Building genuine connections versus trauma bonds.
• Becoming the strongest version of yourself, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

Finding Your Strength: A Thanksgiving Live Chat

It’s great to see so many of you joining from all over the world! From Memphis, Tennessee, to Southern California, Hawaii, France, and Ireland – welcome! This is my first live, so bear with me as I figure things out. The main goal here is to create a safe, non-judgmental space for growth, healing, and connection. If anyone is rude or disrespectful, they’ll be removed. We’re building a community of like-minded people who are all about self-improvement.

I’m Lauren, a transformation coach and a "feminine force." I’ve been through my own struggles – depression, anxiety, trauma, heartbreak, and a significant weight gain, reaching almost 300 pounds. I’ve rebuilt my life from the ground up, and I want to offer you the same opportunity to feel seen and heard.

Many of you are asking about overcoming anxiety. For me, it started with focusing on myself and becoming the best version of myself. I was unhappy in my job, in a dead-end relationship, and using food and alcohol to numb my pain. The key is to face what’s causing you stress. Your anxiety is showing you areas of your life that need attention. Getting rid of toxic environments and surrounding yourself with good people, mentors, and coaches also made a huge difference.

Understanding Polarity in Relationships

One of the biggest topics you wanted to discuss is polarity in relationships. This is about the dynamic between masculine and feminine energy. It’s not about equality in the sense of being the same, but equal in value, bringing different strengths to the table.

• Masculine Energy: Often associated with direction, leadership, calmness, safety, and security. It’s about being centered and providing.
• Feminine Energy: Characterized by softness, nurturing, warmth, and peace. A feminine woman doesn’t add chaos; she brings calm.

Many of us, myself included, can get stuck in our masculine energy due to upbringing or past experiences. Learning to embrace our natural feminine or masculine roles is key. It requires self-awareness, understanding your partner’s perspective, and pausing before reacting. Good communication skills are vital. When both partners are in the same energy (e.g., two masculine energies), it can create friction. The natural attraction comes from the balance of opposites, like yin and yang.

Men often approach problems with a direct, solution-oriented mindset (Point A to Point B). Women, on the other hand, might process things more emotionally, with a more winding path to the solution. It’s the masculine’s role to help navigate this calmly, and the feminine’s role to allow that leadership.

Communication and Accountability: The Cornerstones of Connection

Communication and accountability are areas we all need to work on. For a long time, I suppressed my feelings, a habit learned from childhood where expressing emotions was met with dismissal. My husband had to gently push me to speak up, to get things off my chest. It took building trust to realize he would listen, not judge. Men often want to fix problems because they see pain and want to alleviate it. Women need to feel heard, and men need to listen, even if the logic isn’t immediately clear, before offering a solution.

Accountability is also a big one. It’s hard to say sorry, especially if you didn’t see it modeled growing up. True accountability isn’t just saying "I’m sorry." It’s understanding the impact of your actions, expressing remorse for how you made someone feel, and committing to doing better. Owning your mistakes gives you the power to change.

Healing and Self-Work: The Path to a Better You

Healing, especially from childhood wounds, trauma bonds, and codependency, is a continuous journey. Many of you have explored various forms of therapy, including hypnotherapy and even psychedelics, to aid in this process. While I’m not a licensed professional, my own journey of transformation – overcoming anxiety, depression, and weight issues – has been my credential. I’ve invested heavily in self-work, therapy, and learning from mentors.

It’s important to remember that healing is an inside job. No one else can fix you; you have to do the work yourself to bring value to your relationships. While couples therapy can be helpful, individual work often lays a stronger foundation. Therapists should challenge you, not just let you vent, to truly facilitate growth.

Embracing Your Cycles: Understanding Hormones

Understanding women’s hormonal cycles is incredibly beneficial for relationships. The four phases – menstrual, follicular, ovulation, and luteal – each bring different emotional and physical states. For example, the luteal phase, where I am now, can bring fatigue, grumpiness, and heightened emotions. Recognizing these shifts helps partners navigate them with more understanding and less conflict. It’s about learning to regulate your own emotions and communicate your needs effectively.

Building a Stronger Future

Ultimately, building a strong life and relationships comes down to self-love, continuous growth, and taking action. It’s about choosing to heal, to communicate, and to be accountable. Remember, you are the creator of your life. By focusing on yourself, healing your past, and showing up authentically, you can attract the happiness, peace, and love you deserve.

Thank you all for joining me today. Your support means the world. Keep growing, keep healing, and keep becoming the best version of yourselves. Happy Thanksgiving!